I always hear girls saying
'I'm through with boys! Where are all the men? Where!@#$'
'Thats because hes a boy Brie, you really should look for a real man.'
Then I usually ask them, what is the difference between boys and men, to which they reply vaguely something about age or maturity before changing the topic. So last night after switching on a random korean drama to use up my weekly tear quota after a hard weekend (I believe in monitored sadness coz I'm efficient like that and NOT emo. I'm too awesome to be emo, get it right!), it dawned on me, this difference. And age is not part of the equation.
Boys want the benefits of a relationship* without the responsibilities of one.
Men on the other hand get the benefits of a relationship by being responsible for one.
*Benefits may vary but go along the lines of companionship, sex, social affirmation, someone to listen to them whine about work, ego stroking etc
If you've been used to the point you have nothing left to be used you'll get me and get why i say
I'm through with boys. I really cannot be with another. My Jung test personality type is (unfortunately) 'The Giver' which makes me happy to make you happy in the truest sense. I do it till i can't anymore and needless to say such things are wasted on boys.
I'd like to believe I'm a good person and I'll find another. One who won't put his future above 'ours', cast me aside when hes busy, borrow 2k from me and take 6 months to return it eventhough he earns more than me, let me pay for most of the bills eventhough we live together and i do all the housework, promise me or say things he isn't going to do, test me, or scream demeaning things to me when he's upset. Someone who won't leave me at my side of the bed crying for an hour pretending i'm not there...there has to be someone like that. If not, I really am happy to be alone for the rest of my life.
So it is curious to me now girls who are unhappy and stay with boys and don the sad smile when they say 'But i really love him'.
Coz I'm just not that girl anymore.